Relationships
Okay, so if you've read my previous posts about college, you probably assume I am a depressed psycho, which I am not. I write when I feel intense emotions, and I was feeling some pretty negative ones earlier this school year. However, as I have not written for a few months, I sort of left off on a dating cliffhanger.
I recently entered a relationship and all I have to say is it's worth it. I went on so many bad dates and thought about deleting my Tinder about a billion times, but all of those bad experiences combined could not amount to how happy I am in this relationship. I feel so secure in this relationship that I gave her the url to this blog, so hi to my girlfriend who stalks this website. Every bad experience I had dating or talking to someone helped me understand what was healthy and what was not. If a boy texts you at 2 AM exclusively, he's probably not in it for the long haul and will most definitely hit you up for a booty call at some point. If a boy blocks you before you even go on a date, chances are he's immature and can't handle real emotions. If a boy invites you over to his dorm room and expects you to lay on a pull-out twin mattress with him while watching TV, he's probably going to attempt to jump your bones even though you don't know each other's last names. Freshman boys in general are crazed hormonal fuckboys (ooh a swear) and all they want is to get in your pants.
But then I started dating someone who did none of those things. We got coffee and played card games (which is one of my favorite pastimes as I am a grandma). Everything with her is wonderful, and she is not afraid to talk about her emotions (unlike literally any boy I've ever talked to). Relationships are more than going on dates and physical contact. It's a partnership of caring about someone and wanting the absolute best for them, and trying to help them out however possible. But also buying them little dinosaur toys because they love dinosaurs and Target has so many dinosaur objects in the dollar section that you can't help yourself. In every way that my past dating experience has been wrong, this relationship has been right. Holding out for someone who makes you feel like a ray of sunshine and inspires you to write songs about them is so so worth it.
A good relationship is not ignoring the other person's flaws, it's embracing them, even when they're always five minutes late and you're always five minutes early. Navigating a relationship takes work and communication, but it's worth it if you both put in the effort. So here I am, in a healthy relationship, and no longer bitter about emotions and men (just kidding, I'll always be bitter about men). I am grateful every day that I have the opportunity to be with someone I genuinely care about, and I hope everyone gets to experience this, because it freakin rocks.
